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Grilled Cheese & Applesauce

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I was making my three young boys, aged 2, 3 and 4 years old lunch today. Grilled cheese and applesauce. Something that my mother used to make for us when we were younger. Most people wouldn’t think to pair the two together. Usually it’s served with tomato soup or something like that. But growing up in Detroit in the 70s made you learn how to stretch your dollar. Especially if you had a large family.

My mother had 4 girls, no boys, of which I am the oldest. My dad had a good job at the utility company. We were fortunate to have been able to leave Detroit eventually and move to the suburbs. My parents felt like we should be able to have a good education and good opportunities.

My mother, formerly a caterer, taught us that family is important and she also showed us how to love and respect each other and other people. But another thing I learned from her was how to cook meals made from love for my family. How to take the little things you have and make it work so that everyone can eat.

So while making grilled cheese sandwiches for my kids, I lovingly recall days of pork ‘n beans with pieces of hot dogs, beef stew, chili, lasagna and fried chicken. However, I also remember things like homemade pound cake, carrot cake and helping her make chocolate chip cookies. I remember being angry at her for never buying ice cream from the ice cream truck for us like all our friends did; but she always kept ice cream and Popsicles in the freezer for us.

Yes, I, like most other kids enjoyed nutritious meals with my family, but also was able to have things to snack on from time to time. Everyone has cravings from time to time; whether it be a sweet tooth or something salty.

I can’t imagine what it would feel like to have someone from outside my household tell me what I can and can’t feed my children. Although, I’d like to think I provide healthy and satisfying meals for my family, you will still find a variety of snack foods in my house at any time. But what do you consider to be a snack? Well, people have varied opinions on it.

Snack or “junk” foods could be crackers, pretzels, fruit rollups, candy bars, Slim Jims, Vienna sausage, spam, ice cream, brownies, corn dogs, hot dogs, sandwiches, pizza rolls, cake, pie, cheese, yogurt, pudding, tv dinners, toast with jelly, hardboiled eggs, or fruits, nuts and vegetables. Is there really only one kind of snack or junk food? What may be considered junk food to some isn’t to others. So how would you regulate something like that?

I read on CafeMom that the state/federal government is considering banning food stamp recipients from buying “junk food” with their food stamps. I have to admit, I was pretty pissed off by some of the comments on there by other moms. Okay, on one hand, I can truly understand people being upset about abuse of food stamp “privileges”. But at the same time, I don’t want anyone to tell me how to feed my kids.

I read about people wasting their tax dollars on food stamp recipients and all sorts of crappy comments. Where exactly do we draw the line? Should we stop people from buying ground beef because they make cheeseburgers from it and cheeseburgers are greasy and fatty? Or should we stop allowing people to buy Kool-Aid because too much sugar isn’t good for you?  Better yet, will they stop me from buying coffee for my coffeemaker (which I drink while I blog and write) because it has no real nutritional value? Or, no more cooking oil to reduce eating fried foods?

I know, I should just have a spare set of keys made so the government can use the spare bedroom, that way, they can control everything in my household. Come on people, seriously? I think our time is better spent making sure people eat at all, than every-penny-detail of what they spend.

I guess I always could make cakes, cookies, pies, etc. from scratch. Even popsicles and pudding. You guys better start too. Or just have some grilled cheese and applesauce, if it’s approved.

How Depression Robs Your Life

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It was only a few months ago that I was “officially” diagnosed with depressive disorder (and anxiety disorder), something that I think I had for a while. Hearing someone say you have it doesn’t make the curtain close or make doves fly. It’s not the end of the show. If anything, the second act is just starting…

Sure everybody gets depressed, it is a normal part of life. You lose someone you love, you lose your job, you had a fight with a spouse or friend. It happens. What isn’t normal is when depression hangs around. It makes you not want to get out of bed. It makes your head hurt. You get angry for no reason and you’re just…there.

Oh, I’ve heard it all: “snap out of it” , “there’s nothing wrong with you”, “just fight it”. Really? Just fight it? And how do you propose I do that? Show where the button is to turn this crap off and I will gladly push it. Pray it away? And you don’t think I’ve already tried that?

Thanks, depression, for leaving me like a woman who has been violated and doesn’t know who the predator was. Thanks for making me look like a fool in front of everyone who knows me because I don’t “look” sick. Thanks for making me not enjoy life and all the things that come with it. Thanks for leaving me in almost constant pain everyday like I have the flu that won’t go away. Thanks for the headaches, for crying for no reason, the memory loss, the lack of concentration….what was I saying?

You can keep your mood swings and stomach cramps. I don’t want the feelings of loneliness you’re pushing off on me. And the suicide thoughts are so yesterday. Why can’t you just leave me alone? Why can’t you let me sleep at night and smile during the day? You have robbed me. Robbed me of my very life. You came like a thief in the night and returned everyday. Each day stealing a little more of me. But you don’t know me. I am telling people about you. They will be vigilant and watch for you. I have told them your name and what you are about. Teachers and parents; even doctors and nurses are taking note and spreading the word. Together we are fighting you. Eventually, we will be able to catch you before you have gotten away with too much.

I know you will never truly go away, you’re like the slow buzz creeping up on me from a sip of wine or liquor. But know that I will always try to fight you when I can. With support groups and Lexapro and suicide hotlines and continuing to write. I will fight you by helping others and sharing their pain. No longer will they have to feel alone. We will all fight you and someday win.

Until then, you can go straight to hell.

Why Aren’t You Making Money? Write, Already!


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If you are blogging, participating in a forum or discussion, are a parent with experience raising kids, are the person everyone goes to in your family to cook or are the computer guru of the family….why aren’t you making any money doing what you ALREADY DO?

Can you write? Do you write poems, recipes, short stories, do historical research, comedy, parenting tips? Then you can make money. Yes, you can. Will you become a millionaire tomorrow? Not likely, but you CAN get SUPPLEMENTAL INCOME to help you on those months you are short.

Have you bought the new iPhone or Kindle? Don’t see any reviews about your favorite restaurant? You can WRITE about it!

I’m disabled and can no longer work, but I can write about things that interest me, interest you, make you smile, make you angry, make you cry. No I don’t have a degree in journalism. But I do have life experiences…and so do you. Why not try your hand at writing?

Check out places like eLance, Blogger, WordPress, HubPages, Freelancer, Constant Content, Squidoo and many others. You can do a search for freelance writing and do your thing!

There are soooo many places you can go and start writing TODAY for FREE and start getting the help you need. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the US, UK, Asia, Africa you can do this!

Don’t think you write well? There are many tutorials and aids to help you, plus whatever writing community you join will show you feedback from your readers when you leave comments. Get yourself noticed by adding yourself to Twitter and Facebook as well as Linked in and the many other social networks that are out there. Come out of your dark place and go into the sun. Get what you deserve!

I can’t wait to read what you wrote…so be sure and drop me a line when you do, so I can support you! Support me by telling them Stayingalivemoma sent you! If you like what you read here and found it useful then please, Like me on Facebook and tweet me on Twitter! You can also stop by my website for more ways to make money online at


The Greer Campaign’s Fatherhood Program (via thegreercampaign)

Fathers Unite!! All Men Take Note(and Women too) This is outstanding information for men everywhere to be come better fathers and if you’re already a good dad, why not build upon that?

The Greer Campaign's Fatherhood Program The Greer Campaign has been uniting fathers and families for quite some time, working to combat the unique challenges they face. Beginning October 3rd, The Greer Campaign will be hosting a series of classes called The Fatherhood Program at the Salvation Army in Jackson Tennessee.  Using the National Fatherhood Initiative’s curriculum, the goal of the Fatherhood Program is to educate Fathers who are looking to better the lives of their children. T … Read More

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Privileged? (via Sown in Tears reap in Joy)

Everyone should read this and learn!

Privileged? Yesterday in class my teacher had our class to go on a privilege walk… on this walk we all lined up shoulder to shoulder from left to right and she began by asking a series of questions like if you were born in the U.S. take a step forward, if you have health insurance take a step forward, if you think your culture or religion is negatively portrayed by mass media take a step back etc… she asked a total of 20 questions so that by the end you … Read More

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Evicted: 101 year old woman thrown out in the street

What kind of world are we in where someone would actually put a 101 year old woman out on the street? Hearing this makes me cringe. Watching the video makes me cry. Literally, it made me cry. You can watch the video here:

(I must warn you and let you know that it is a little unsettling watching the woman)

We really need to find ways to pull together. This world is going to hell in a handbasket. We need prayer people, we need people to pull together and find ways to actually help, not just talk about it. Let me know what you think. And if you need help with rent, diapers, food, utilities, read my article. It has great tips and links that REALLY CAN HELP YOU.

As for those people who actually carried her things out and put them on the street, I know you were just doing your job, but shame on you. I’ve always thought that you job reflects the type of person you are; or at least it should. Had it been me, I probably would have been out of a job because I have a conscience.

I have nothing but deep admiration for anyone that has been blessed enough to live that long. She is a wealth of history of trials and tribulations and perseverance. If you know someone who is elderly in your neighborhood, stop and ask them how they are doing. Ask them if they need anything. Strike up a conversation. Cook them a meal. Give them a ride. They are everyone’s history and they deserve so much more than what we give them.

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